Life Update & Future Plans

Happy Sunday! I’m so excited to finally bring you a new post this week. Life has been kind of crazy lately, with a lot of stuff going on around me, so it has been hard for me to find time with my computer. However, things seem to be getting calmer and settled now so here I am!

If you follow me on twitter you might already know this but…I finally have a job! I cannot begin to tell you how excited I am for this. Is it my dream job? No. I’m going to be working at a call center. Is it something I can see myself do for a long time? Not really. It is a start though and that’s all I really need at this point.

Back in July, I wrote a post about my goals for the end of the summer and not so long ago I admitted I was not able to do anything on that list in time and how disappointed/frustrated I was with myself. Now, I’m finally able to check “Getting A Job” off of that list. I know we are now in November and, trust me, I’m still mad this took me so long but I’ve been trying to look at the positive side of situations lately. That all glass half full and not half empty thing.

Having this job will give me the opportunity of saving money to go to college (hopefully by next year) and being able to buy things for myself. Not only this, but I think having my day filled with something will be good for me. Getting out of the house for a bit and having my mind busy with something is what I’ve been needing for a while.

What’s Next?

Now I want to complete the rest of my “summer” goals. I want to start my weight loss journey and work on my mental health. I know these two things are on my mind a lot and I need to change that. I’ve always had a hard time with handling these issues and I really want to change that. It won’t be easy but I need to at least try!

I also want to work on actually having a proper schedule. It’s no secret that I’m not really good with posting on time – for a lot of reasons – and with now having a job plus everything I want to do at the same time it will be tricky.

I’ve been thinking of maybe posting once a week, either Saturday or Sunday since I won’t be at work. I can work on my posts throughout the week and by the time the weekend comes around I’ll already have something in the works.

Besides this, I just want to relax! I’ve been feeling so stressed with many things for so long and I just want to find some way to escape from time to time. I don’t know what I’ll do yet but hopefully something will come to me soon enough.

I can’t tell that by December I won’t have a post about how I’m consistently disappointing myself because I won’t be able to live up to what I want to do, because maybe it will happen. What I can tell you is that if I do write that post I’ll upload it, get up and try again.

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The Versatile Blogger Award

Hello again. Somehow I ended up writing two posts about awards this Tuesday and I’m quite excited about it.

Thank you to Lazy Girls Running for nominating me for this award! Check their amazing blog here.


Rules:

  1. Thank the person who nominated you.
  2. Include a link to their blog in your post.
  3. Nominate 15 bloggers of your choice.
  4. Share 7 facts about yourself.

7 Facts About Myself:

  • I’ve never been on a plane. I’ve never really traveled before.
  • My favorite movie of all time is The Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind
  • I’ve never been in a relationship
  • I have a scar on my face since I was around 2/3 but I don’t know why. My parents don’t know what happened either.
  • I never learned how to swim and now I feel weird about learning it
  • Now that I’m not in school, I either wake up at 6:30 am or 14 pm…there’s no in between
  • I literally spent 20 minutes staring at my screen, trying to think of this facts because I’m so freaking boring

My 15 Nominees: 

Wandering Nobody

Faustantica

Ana’s Lil Blog

Molly Breeze’s Blog

Thoughts Of A Multipotentialite

Something So True

A Slice Of The Toon

Stralthy

Binging On A Budget

Becoming Elysia

Bee Beauty

The Talking Blogger AC

Life With Lynette

Sophie Rayne

Thoughts From Jasmine

 

Thank you again for the nomination. Please, visit all of these incredible bloggers! x

Blogger Recognition Award!

Hey guys, happy Tuesday!

I’m so excited to write you about the Blogger Recognition Award today. The amazing Poise Pulp nominated me for this award and I was really surprised, but happy, when I saw it. This was my first time being nominated for something like this, since I’m quite new to the blogging world and I could not be more thankful for this!

Please, check out the incredible Poise Pulp here.


Nomination Rules:img_20181029_222144

  1. Give thanks to the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  2. Write a post to show your award
  3. Give a brief story of how your blog got started
  4. Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers
  5. Select 15 other bloggers to nominate
  6. Comment on each blog to let them know you nominated them and provide a link to your post.

How I started my blog:

I’ve talked about this on a previous post. This is not my first blogging experience, but it is the first time I’m taking it more seriously. At the beggining of this summer I was looking for a way to exercise my love for writing and have a way to share some experiences, thoughts and opinion on many different things, since I felt like it was not possible to do so in my personal life.

I decided to create this blog for that exact reason. I wanted to create my own space to vent about different subjects and be connected with different people. Writing has been very helpful for me. I feel like I have this little space to talk about things that I usually don’t because I felt they were not important or interesting enough.

If you want to know more about my blogging history, I talked about on a post about My Two Failed Blogs.

My Advice To New Bloggers:

  • Don’t change your content to get numbers (readers and views). 

I know it’s hard to see some people getting their work out there alot faster then you. However, there’s alot that goes into blogging and getting people to appreciate you and stick around. If you start to write certain types of posts just because you see that that’s what attracts more people then you won’t be happy. Not only that, but it’s likely that the quality of your content will not be as good as it can be. If you are writing about something that people don’t even care people, the readers will be able to tell! Focus on writing about what something you like and feel passion for. That way you’ll release good quality content and your audience will eventually find you!

  • Don’t overwork yourself.

I’ve learned this the hard way. I know it’s hard, because you just want to get posts out there and in the beginning you’re so excited and full of ideas. That’s great! However, it’s also important to realize that there’s bloggers who do this as a full time job, but for others (including me) they have other things going on.

Getting a schedule and sticking to it is tricky, specially because if you aren’t able to go it you’ll get disappointed. Don’t feel like you have to post all the time, post when you are ready and happy with the final product. Otherwise you’ll only feel more pressured to post and your content will suffer. Even for people that can have blogging as their only source of income. We all have things going on in our lives. Sometimes, it’s alright to relax and take time from your computer!

My 15 Nominees:

Sam Space

Life In A Suitcase

Hannah Catherine

Ruby Captures

Indefinitely J

Relate Technologies

Glimmer Of Happiness

Sparkle And Style

Just Sarah’s Blog

BeauLife

The Black Princess Diaries

Owls And Stags | Emma Louise

Lize In Disneyland

Bronzed Brunette

Melanie Jessica

 

Visit these incredible bloggers and have a great week!

Getting Frustrated With Myself

Hey guys! So I really do suck, right? For any of you that actually follow my blog and specially to the ones that follow by twitter and saw my money tweets promising new content I apologize. I haven’t been on my blog for a while AGAIN and I’m actually pissed of at myself because I should really do better than this.

This time around I don’t really think it’s worth it for me to try to justify my absence since that’s what I usually do and then go back into hiding. I have been having a hard time lately – which I’ve discussed before – with feeling really depressed and there are some days where I just can’t even get out of bed and barely speak. However, I don’t want to use that as an excuse because I promised not only myself but you (my followers) that I would do better and be consistent and I’m failing…miserably.

It makes me incredibly angry because I love blogging and this isn’t a situation where I’m just a lazy asshole that doesn’t want to actually do this. I have so many ideas, goal and even half done drafts of blog posts. Unfortunately, I haven’t been on the greatest state of mind and it sucks. I feel like I’m letting you down and also disappointing myself! I want to be a good blogger/writer and I also want to do many other things that I haven’t even started and it’s my own fault! That’s the worst part to be completely honest, that I’m aware that I have no one else to blame but myself.

A while ago I wrote a post talking about my Personal Goals For The End Of The Summer where I discussed my desire to start a weight loss journey, get a job and better my mental health. It’s October now – summer is behind us – and I hate to tell you that I have not accomplished or even half accomplished anything on that post. I’m getting in my own way and I don’t know what to do about it. People in my “real life” haven’t been very helpful before and I don’t want to get disappointed by asking for help again.

So here I am at 18:30 pm writing this post to get all of this out of my chest. I’m not going  to make a huge post telling you everything that has happened to leave me in this state of mind because I don’t want to come of as a whiny girl but also it’s not even worth it. I know this post is not making a lot of sense but I’m just writing as things come to me and sometimes that’s just what you need.

As the title of this post says, I’m frustrated. Incredibly frustrated in fact. I’ve wasted my all gap year from school doing pretty much nothing but stay at home crying about everything that is wrong with my mind and now here I am. I’m going into my second – unplanned and unwanted – gap year and feeling lonely as hell. I got no one else but myself to blame for that though.

I’m now, as I’m writing this, also sending a few resumes to a couple of places. That’s good. I do believe that, maybe, getting a job will help be get off of my own head for a while and be distracted/busy most of the day. That’s what I need but unfortunately did not work on it sooner.

To finish this of I just want to say thank you to any of you for sticking around while I’m this big mess and hopefully next week I’ll have a better post to give you!

Thank you for reading x

The Apps/Sites I Use As A Blogger

Happy Tuesday! This week I decided to slow down a bit, after considering how stressed and anxious I had been for the last few weeks – which I discussed on my previous post. Initially I wanted to do a post about my birthday this year and get it on the blog today – the day after – but I had already started working on this post a few days ago and I didn’t want to rush myself to write a brand new piece and complete it today. A post about my 20th birthday will be up next week though.

So one of the things I also talked about on last weeks post (already linked) was that it is easy to feel like you have to do everything that you see “successful” bloggers do but that isn’t true – what works for others might not always work for you and for what you want. However, I do think that are MANY helpful posts for bloggers out there and a lot of times all you need is to adapt it to your own blog and what exactly you are trying to obtain. One of my favorite posts to read when I started this blog back in June were the ones that told me all about the apps/sites you can use as a blogger to help you out. From the ones that we use for promotion and interaction with readers and other bloggers, to the ones that are utilized to organize ideas and future updates. There are so many options out there but these are the ones I found to be easier and that made more sense to me and my own blog. Trust me when I tell you that I have installed and then deleted a bunch of apps from my phone after realizing they didn’t work for me.

I also want to say I use the free versions for all of these! Some of them have “better” versions that you can update to but that will cost you a certain amount of money. There are a couple of limitations with settling for the free versions, but nothing that bothers me at the moment.

The Basics

When you first start blogging you are always told to create the “normal” social media accounts to promote your work and to be out there. I do think, depending on what your blog is focused on, you don’t need to be as active as some people might say. Still, it is easy to create a bigger and, hopefully, more active audience by being on social media.

In my case, I use mostly Instagram and Twitter and I was able to connect with more people interested in blogging and on my own post through it (mostly twitter, but I am more active there so it makes sense).

DiClF_RUEAEPpnN.jpgNow, I’ll be honest. When I started out I read nothing but praises for Pinterest and what it can do for your blog. I just don’t feel like it works for me. There’s a chance it might be because I still don’t quite understand it completely and I do hear others always say Pinterest is where they get most of their readers from, but it just has not worked for me.

Canva

I absolutely love Canva! I have the app on my phone but I also use the website version. In case you are not familiar, this is an app that helps you create and edit images for almost any platform you might want. I use it to create the layouts and colleges of imagines for blog posts, as well as to create Instagram posts. You can also create images specifically for Instagram stories, Pinterest, Facebook, bookmarks and so many more.

This is the perfect app to use if you want to take your photos and edits for your blog posts to the next level. Here are some examples of the ones I made and used for my blog.

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WordPress

This one might seem a bit obvious, but when I first started I really thought I could go without having the app version on my phone, since I mostly use my computer for anything blog related. However, getting the app has helped me be a lot more active, respond to comments faster and also read other people’s posts – as well as comment there – while I’m laying in bed. I big part of getting the word out about your blog is to also interact with other people and to try to establish regular readers.

I also like to have this app on my phone because sometimes I’m just laying in bed or I’m on the bus and ideas for a blog post start running through my mind and I can just write them right away.

Notepad

As an Android user I can tell that noteapps for our phones aren’t great but I found one that is good enough. I just use it when an idea comes to mind or to write down something that I have to work on.

Buffer

There are many apps like Buffer that help you organize and schedule post for your social media accounts – such as Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, Facebook – but I went with this one. Basically, what Buffer does is let you schedule a post (including photos if you want) and it will post it when you want without you having to do anything. If you want to post 4 tweets a day promoting or recent blog post you can just use Buffer once, include the times you want it to be up and it will be done. It does help a lot if you are not able to be as active on social media as you’d like.

I don’t use it a lot because I do like posting things myself and being able to personally interact with my followers. I also, to be completely honest, find it annoying when you look at someones twitter feed and you can tell they actually barely log in and they just have posts – clearly pre-scheduled – to promote stuff.

Stock Photos

I’m aware a lot of bloggers do take their own photos and edit them themselves. I want to do that myself in the future! However, I know it’s hard blogging on a budget when you don’t have a good camera or even the one on your phone sucks. That’s what’s great about stock images. They are free and you can use them without fearing copyrights or any other issues – if you just use google images you are taking that risk! – so you can just take them. You can find some great photography as well.

I mostly use photos from Unsplash and Pexels since they have a big variety of pictures.

If you are just starting out this are great websites to use in order to make your blog posts more appealing.

 

Alright guys, I hope I could be helpful with this post. Please, share in the comments what other apps/sites you use to make your blogging experience easier!

What I’ve Learned From Blogging This Summer

Hey guys! Wow it feels like such a long time since my last post. I do want to start by saying how sorry I am that I kind of disappeared. Not only did I not post – after telling you I’d post three times a week – but I was also not active on any of my social media accounts.

I do not want to go into a deep explanation of what happened because it is somewhat complicated. However, the shortened version is that I was having a tough time in my personal life,my depression started to get the best of me and I honestly did not feel like doing ANYTHING. This isn’t an exaggeration or anything, I legit did not feel like getting out of bed during the all day and I did not do anything productive for the last month or so, which is deeply sad to me because now summer is over and I have not completed any of my summer goals that I talked about on a previous post.

Things are not resolved or anything but I am now trying to get better and get myself together.

Anyways, at first I thought of making a post kind of venting about everything – which I did start writing but never finished – however I decided that I wanted to stop thinking about all the things that happened and so I decided to write this post about all the things I’ve learned on my first summer as a blogger.

I have talked about my two previous blogs and how much they failed because I was not dedicated enough at the time, so with this blog it almost feels like a first time which was very interesting to me.

I’m sure there by the end of the year I’ll look at this post and think about a trillion other things I’ve learned since, but for now here’s everything I have learned from my experience as a blogger this summer:

Blog Followers Don’t Mean Much

I have almost 70 blog followers now, but one thing that I have learned is that those are not 70 guaranteed readers when I post something new. Some people follow your blog because you followed first and they are just returning the favor or because they want you to follow them back, but they are never really active on your page. Having a certain number of followers on your blog will not mean you will have more likes/comments on your posts than someone with less followers.

Promoting Is Important…But It’s Not Everything

The most important way to get people to visit your blog is to promote your work. Most of us do so by using Twitter, Instagram or Pinterest. That is incredibly important if you want other people to discover your posts. However, it is not everything. You can spend an all week promoting your writing, but if your posts are not interesting or good in any way then reader will click off after reading two sentences. Focus on your content first and how you will get people to read it second!

Do Not Overwork Yourself

As I mentioned at the beginning of this post, I said a while back that I was going to do three posts a week on The 20 Year Old Mess. I wrote a all post about it. However, I was only able to do so for a single week! I thought that I was going to be able to do since I am unemployed and “have the time” but I just ended up stressing myself about it. The biggest thing that I have learned is that I need to be more realistic when it comes to the direction of this blog and what I want to do.

You Don’t Need To Have A Determined Day To Post

Having a set day to have a post up on your blog is a way to keep everything organized but, for some of us, it’s also a way to unnecessarily stress us out. I do think, if you want to have a somewhat active blog, you should definitely post once a week or so, but it does not have to be on a single day. If you are working on a post and think it isn’t perfect or it needs something else, then it’s fine to just work on it more the next day and just post when you are happy with what you wrote. Otherwise you will just be posting because you have to and not because you want to.

It’s Okay To Take A Break

Sometimes things become too much and you need a break? That’s okay. For a lot of people blogging is a job but that does not mean you have to be miserable while doing it. If you need a break every now and then, that only means you’ll come back with a fresh mind and more ideas.

Don’t Do Something Just Because Others Are Doing It

Blogging can be hard. When I started this blog in June I read so many different posts about what to do and what not to do. Some of them were helpful but other’s not so much. What worked out for this and other person might not work out for you! Don’t get me wrong, it is important to get advice sometimes, specially when you are first starting out, but don’t let what other bloggers do completely determine the direction of your own blog.

I know this was a really short post, but now that I’m back I just want to slowly get my groove back. Next week I’ll have a post up that I have been working on for a while now.

Have a great rest of a weekend xx

My Two Failed Blogs

Hello guys! Cannot believe it’s already Tuesday and it’s time for another blog post. Before I go into today’s topic, I do have a question for you: Do you like this new blogging schedule? I told you on my post Blog Updates & Goals that from now on I would be posting three posts each week, each one relating to a different category. However, I want to know if you think that is a good plan or if it’s too much? Let me know in the comments below!

So today I thought I told you about my two failed blogs and what exactly I did that made them a failure. I wish both of them were still up, but unfortunately I’ve already deleted one of them. The other is in Portuguese but I’ll link it later on in the post and translate a bit of what I wrote in there.

When Did I Create Them

My first blog was on Tumblr, which I know is not the most popular platform for an actual blog. I created it sometime in 2013 – when I was 14/15 years old – and I wrote in English. This is the blog I have already deleted. The account on itself is still there but when I decided to not write in there anymore I deleted all of the posts so it’s empty. Since I never deactivated the account completely I can tell you the name. For some reason, at 15, I thought The Girl From The Background was a good name. It’s not.

The second blog was created on a more popular blogging platform, Blogger. This blog – titled Words From A Broken Home – was created in June of 2015, which means I was still 16 since I would only be 17 in September. As you might be able to tell by the name, I created this blog when I was in a though moment in my life, specially involving my family. None of that is, in any way, 100% solved at this point but in 2015 I was not able to handle things like I do right now, so it was a darker moment for me.

What Did I Post About

As I said earlier in this post, I already deleted everything involving my short-lived blog on Tumblr, so I cannot show you anything from there.

Thankfully, the second blog is still up. In this blog I only ever posted three times and they were all very short posts. As you might be able to see from the dates, I only used it for 3 days! The first ever post is called “Crazy Day” in which I talk very briefly about what happened that day. It’s about the time a girl I had just met that day went into an alcoholic coma. It happened when I was hanging out with a bunch of friends and that girl came with one of them. We were drinking a bit – which obviously we were not old enough to do and it was super dumb – and me and a few other people were aware that she was going too far but she didn’t really care. Anyways, that was a really scary experience and one that, at that time, made me actually reflect on a lot of things happening around me, including one of my friends at the time that we were all really worried about.

Here’s a quote (translated) from the post:

Already thought many times in calling her to the side and talk to her but I don’t think I would be a great help, mainly because I’m not in the best state of mind either.

I then wrote about my parents going their separate but I don’t think it’s worth it for me to translate my thoughts on the mater since they have since gotten back together and I do want to write about it now.

The last post, ironically, is about how I really liked posting about my thoughts on things and how I was enjoying having the blog.

Here’s what I wrote:

In a weird way I’m enjoying writing here. I’m never going to tell anyone I know that I have this blog because my only goal with it is to organize my thoughts and have a way to open up to others without it being in “real life”.

That actually has not changed. I haven’t told anyone in “real life” about the existence of The 20 Year Old Mess.

Why They Failed

The failure of both blogs is honestly the same: I was not ready.

This might sound weird but I truly believe you need to be ready, in many ways, when creating and committing to posting on I blog.

First of all, you have to put in work on blogging. You have to promote it so people even remotely know you exist. I did none of that, I legit created this blogs and that was it. I wrote every now and then and expected people to magically find the blogs. Of course, that’s not how it works.

This lead me to, specially with the first blog, get really frustrated and start to think it was not worth it because no one cared. To sum it up: I was an idiot.

Not only that, but a lot was going on in my personal life that I did not know how to handle.

I was writing about some personal stuff, which I also plan on doing in this blog, but at that time things were ever-changing and I was struggling. I did not know what was happening, what should I do and if honestly I could take it. I’ve talked about how I do have anxiety and suffer from mental illness and at that point in my life things were getting really hard and I was trying to pretend like they weren’t, specially in front of others.

Because of that I would get home and feel so tired, I was genuinely emotionally drained and I just could not bring myself to get up and write about anything, even if I tried to write about “lighter” things.

I just gave up both times.

What Changed Now

Simple. I’m just ready! I’m not going to lie to you, sometimes it is difficult. I still struggle with just wanting to lie in bed, forget about the world and do nothing sometimes.

However, now I’m willing to try to, even if I fail, I won’t just give up completely and pretend the blog does not exist. I’ll just start again for the next post.

I cannot promise you this blog will be perfect, there might be weeks I won’t be able to post and it will be hard for me. This time around I won’t just quit though. I won’t have a third failed blog!

xx